In President
Monson’s General Conference talk in October 2008, he said, “Let us relish life
as we live it, find joy in the journey, and share our love with friends and
family.” I will be referring to this talk (one of my all-time favorite
conference talks) today.
I’ve been
asked to talk with you today about being spiritually, emotionally, and
financially secure. And I’m not going to speak about this! Rather, I’m giving
the pre-lesson, because I believe if we are happy, hopeful, finding joy in our
journey, then stability and comfort will be ours.
Poet and
Philosopher Henri-Frederic Amiel said, “Life is short, and we have never too
much time for gladdening the hearts of those who are traveling in the dark
journey with us. Oh be swift to love, make haste to be kind.”
President
Benson said, “Be cheerful in all that you do. Live joyfully. Live happily. Live
enthusiastically, knowing that God does not dwell in gloom and melancholy, but
in light and love.”
How many of us
are so busy getting from point A to point B that we don’t enjoy the middle? We
push through the middle, get to the end, and then get started all over again.
How many of us spend time worrying? Do I have the right tools, Is my child’s
party going to be as grand as his friends, Why doesn’t my art project look as
good as the one in Pinterest, What if it rains? And we worry, and that takes us
away from enjoying the moments that we have. And leaves us wanting what we
don’t have, rather than appreciating what we do have.
Thoreau said,
“Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song
still in them.” I can’t help but think of the atonement, and how we don’t have
to live troubled miserable lives. If we are
miserable, then where is our faith? Are we partaking of the blessings of the
Atonement? (Brad Wilcox’s talk, “His Grace is Sufficient” both in writing and
available on Youtube, speaks clearly and poignantly to this point.) The Book of
Mormon and the Bible teach us over and over again to be prepared, to have hope,
and to live in joy. Men are that they might have
joy, 2 Ne.
2:25; In this life I shall have joy, Moses
5:10–11; The purpose of mortal life is for all people to
have joy, 2 Ne. 2:22–25; The meek also shall increase their joy in the Lord,
Isa.
29:19; (2 Ne.
27:30). John
16:33 reads, “In the world ye shall have tribulation, but be of good cheer. I
have overcome the world.” President Monson said, “Prepare for the future, Learn
from the past, Live for today.”
What brings you joy?
Have you ever, or
have you heard your children say, “I cannot wait until . . .” “How much
longer?” “How much further?” “How many more days until . . .?” Of course we’ve
all said those phrases, but how can we make our journey as important as our
destination? Especially when that destination changes on a daily basis?
Margaret Lee Runbeck said, “Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner
of traveling.” Live, don’t just exist, or worse, wait. Between birth and death,
triumph and sorrow, beginnings and endings, we enjoy innumerable experiences
that often happen without our noticing them. And I’m not saying we have to
pause our life to enjoy the “middle,” but to be aware of the middle as we are
traveling. “Mmmmm, that is great lettuce.” “I am so grateful for my washer and
dryer today.” “Look at that, we have $5 in our checking account, what a
blessing.” Simply acknowledging a night’s sleep, a clean
toilet, a kind word, an extra lap around the track, uninterrupted time to put
on your makeup, are ways to note that good exists in our lives – a beautiful
sunrise, fresh snow on the mountain, a good book, scriptures read, are reasons
to celebrate. If we allow our hearts and minds to take in the wonders of the
every day – we can then have joy in our journey. And it’s about finding a
balance – balancing our checkbook, balancing our time taking care of ourselves,
balancing our own pursuit in finding peace.
What brings you peace? What brings you security?
Far too often we let these simple
moments pass us by. Don’t! A quote, attributed to George Clooney (J), is this, “Stop capturing moments. Live the
moments.” In the day of instant and social media, are we putting down the
camera/phone and sinking our teeth into the here and now, rather than freezing
and posting, for tomorrow? And what is the cost of doing this?
A few weeks
ago Scott and I met with our banker, a single woman, cute and smart. Between
transactions she asked us about our children, and she talked about how she
couldn’t’ wait until she was married and could have a family. She asked us if
we like to travel, and of course we told her “yes.” And as we talked about
places we’ve traveled, she said, “I just need to travel now and ‘get it over
with.’” And I replied, “Maybe you need to start, rather than get over.”
Author Jack Kerouac said, “Be in
love with your life, every minute of it.” Don’t be so busy existing that living
is not an option. Pres. Monson, in his 2008 talk, said, “I believe that among
the greatest lessons we are to learn in this short sojourn upon the earth are
lessons that help us distinguish between what is important and what is not. I
plead with you not to let those most important things pass you by as you plan
for that illusive and nonexistent future when you will have time to do all that
you want to do.”
In our goal
driven 12-step focused, promotion preparing, dollar strengthened, daylight
extended, social media comparing, with the end in mind society, it’s tough to
focus on what is truly important – living, living and enjoying today. And if we
are, I believe we become healthy women – our spiritual and emotional well-being
is strengthened.
Can we live in the moment, being
grateful for the here and now? In Nephi 2:27 we read, “Adam fell that man night
be, and men are, that they might have joy.” And darn it, this also alludes to
opposition in all things. So, in order to recognize the joy, we have to have
bad days – messy diapers and snotty noses, stiff muscles from gardening and
working out, cranky kids and co-workers, flat tires and flat hair, lost shoes
and lost loves. But – real life most often happens during the in-between times
– when we are not at Disneyland, but on our way to. Discouragement is
unnecessary pain and a denial of divine power. It hinders spiritual growth, so
while we may have a discouraging moment, it does not need to affect our entire
road trip.
M. Scott Peck, begins his book, “The Road Less Traveled,” with,
“Life is difficult.” And once that is accepted, then the fact no longer
matters, and we can move forward. Life will never be totally pain-free. But it
can be a lot less painful if we accept what is. Our days are filled with
U-turns and unpaved roads. OK, don’t make these diversions axes to carry, make
them adventures. The less burdens we carry, the healthier we are.
How do you redirect?
Throughout our lives we must deal
with change. Some changes are welcome, others not so much. There are sudden
changes – job, loss, illness. But most of our changes take place subtly and
slowly. Some days are just ho-hum days – but celebrate these days – they are a
part of what makes our days treasured.
Day by day, minute by minute,
second by second we move from where we were to where we are now. The lives of
all of us, of course, go through alterations and changes. The difference
between the changes in my life and the changes in yours is only in the details.
Have you ever looked back – and
seen that the bad things that happened in your life put you directly on the
path to the best things that will ever happen to you?” *I know I certainly have
– from a lost business, to a lost marriage, to cancer. But I refuse to see this
as lost time, lost years. *I remember telling a friend, “I want to live cancer
to the ultimate, I want to make sure that I learn everything there is to learn,
so I can move past this.” And my friend told me, “Ronda, you’ll be learning
from this experience for years to come.” Well, nearly three years past
treatment, I am still learning, good continues to come from the journey, the
trial. The journey still continues as I help those who are going through
terrible difficult illnesses.
How do you know you are on the right path?
I beg you to not spend your life
looking forward, “what if’ing” life’s scenarios. I also ask that you not spend
your time looking back, “if only’ing” your life. Author Harriet Beecher Stowe
wrote, “The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and
deeds left undone.” Too many of us spend our time worrying over past regrets or
grievances, or dreaming or worrying about the future. We need to ask ourselves,
“If I am living in the past or future, who is living my life right now?”
I have learned from my husband,
when I ask him, “What are you doing tomorrow,” and he replies, “It’s not
tomorrow yet.”
President Monson quoted author
Sarah Ban Breathnach who wrote, “Both abundance and lack of abundance exist
simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious
choice which secret garden we will tend . . . when we choose not to focus on
what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that’s
present – love, health, family, friends, work, nature, personal pursuits – the
wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience heaven on earth.”
Roman philosopher Horace,
admonished, “Whatever hour God has blessed you with take it with grateful hand,
nor postpone your joys from year to year, so that in whatever place you have
been, you may say that you have lived happily.” And if we are happy, carry joy
and confidence in ourselves and our Father and Savior, then we will have
enough, we can be secure in knowing we are on the right path.
No comments:
Post a Comment
Note: Only a member of this blog may post a comment.