Thoughts for a March Day -

14 Years - Another Happy Anniversary -

February 27, 2004

Another year down!

Well, really, another year for the record books with another grand one on the horizon. I'm grateful for Scott. We continue to learn so much about ourselves and about us together. I think this has been a year for growing our intimacy. We're a pretty passionate couple, yet this year I think we've both come to the understanding that it's time to get to know each other - with late night visits, cuddles in bed, a few Netflix binges, and time together - traveling, sitting, eating, working out, listening, talking, laughing, visiting, reading, enjoying each other's company.

Scott's always told me I was his best friend, and he certainly is becoming that for me. We're weird together, have our own language, our own inside jokes, and this type of intimacy is delightful. We're mature lovers, but still young in our love. What a wonderful place to be.





    2013                                                                          2014

 

                                                                         2015

                                                                          2016

2017 

93 Year Old Woman Dances -

This:

Yesterday morning Scott came waltzing out of the bathroom, clothed, with shampoo in his hair and his hair spiked. He does corny things like this, and he makes me laugh. 

This morning we were working out with our personal trainer, Cody, and when we finished, he was exhausted, and I said something about age and health and sex, and we laughed. 

When I saw this video, I was reminded of the importance of movement and laughter, and a good coach. Enjoy. 

One Good Man -

Nearly 14 years - and I love this man more every day. For example -

We had a great snowstorm last night and early this morning. At 5:30am, Scott quietly got out of bed, put his boots and coat and gloves on. He opened the shed door, pulled out the snow shovel (because the snow was too heavy for the snow blower). He shoveled the sidewalks and driveways of five homes - ours, three widows, one elderly couple. It took him two hours. He came in exhausted at 7:38am.
He showered, ate breakfast, and went to his AA meeting early to make coffee (that he no longer drinks), set up the chairs, and make sure everything was in place for their meeting. He came home a little later than usual, having helped two guys who were down.
He rested, then helped me get dinner ready to take to my mother's, where my brother and my son and his family were waiting for dinner.
He played with the five grandchildren, and now, we're home, he's exhausted, but still thinking about who he can help tonight - so he sends kind texts to those he thinks may need a little extra boost.

From the moment I met Scott I was never confused about what he stood for. He's not the best verbal communicator, he's not wealthy, but his actions are his words, and his heart is gold.

I love him; he is my constant. He is my teacher.

Pic by Jennaholmphoto in Instagram

Google Stats -

I don't get it, I just don't understand why I've had more than my typical number of daily blog readers. Google Stats has a world map that shows where the readers are for my blog - and typically they're from continental US and Alaska, and some from England, Western Europe.

However, this past two weeks I've had a huge number of readers from Russia and Latin America. I can't figure out why. My stats show that most of my hits come from Google search, and I try to play with my titles for good key words, but this is bizarre.

So, do I blow it off, dig deeper, worry, quit writing?

Intelesting, velly intelesting.

This is not from my blog! 

Words -

I love language. I love the way letters make sounds and sounds become words and words become symbols for feelings, actions, identities. Wow - the beauty of language is stunning. So when I read, or hear, combinations of words in just the right order, I am sometimes brought to tears or chills, and left with such a swelling in my soul that I am wordless.

Here are a few that are touching me right now:

For the two of us, home isn't a place, it is a person. And we are finally home. 

I don't believe in magic, The young boy said. The old man smiled. You will when you see her. 

Wise men, when in doubt whether to speak or to keep quiet, gibe themselves the benefit of the doubt, and remain silent. 

Worry is as useless as a handle on a snowball. 

Simplicity boils down to two steps: Identify the essential. Eliminate the rest. 

I don't want a busy life where I constantly put off the best and most important things for later and "someday when I retire." I want to live a full life now. 

Watch carefully the magic that occurs when you give a person just enough comfort to be themselves.

And right now, as I'm in the thick of teaching professionals and students how to love themselves and accept others (regardless of the approval quotient: Diversity is being invited to the party. Inclusion is being asked to dance. 

And, to hold hands with the above quote, this one: What we need to realize is that sometimes people don't need advice. Sometimes people just need to be heard. Sometimes the greatest gift we can give someone is just to keep our mouths shut and let them empty themselves into our hands. 

Lastly, a new saying, from "The Greatest Showman," that as I'm coming up on my 5 year anniversary of finishing cancer treatment, and beginning to accept the new me:

http://theweekendfox.com/8-quotes-greatest-showman/

These words keep me -

Dinner With the Kids - Good Move -

Several months ago, on a Sunday, Jenna called and asked what we were having for dinner. It was her way of saying, "Can we come over for Sunday dinner? Because I don't want to cook." Well, I had a great meal in the works, but instead of having them to our place, I suggested that we bring dinner to their place, so they didn't have to pack the kids up, drive here, eat, pack the kids up, drive home.

And - it was a hit! And we've combined meals many times since -

So, Scott and I decided to try it with Tyler and family. "Tyler, can we come to dinner at your place on Sunday? We'll bring dinner." They made dessert. And of course, who could turn down dinner, and we had dinner at their home - played with the kids on their turf, cleaned up, came home. Lovely evening. And we've done this a few times since.

Right before Christmas I called Diana, and offered the same deal. Hit! The kids loved the meal ("This is just like Thanksgiving dinner"); Diana had Christmas treats for us. We made Christmas ornaments, kissed the kids good-bye, and came home.

Oh yeah! It's a blast - I cook dinner, we pack it up, drive to the kids, unpack, table already set, eat, wash up, play and visit with the kids, come home - TO A CLEAN HOUSE!!! And no stress.

Tonight Julie and Alex came here for dinner. The best visit. And no stress.

We try to have my mom over a couple of times a week, and it's the same - we make dinner, she'll bring a dessert or rolls, and always good conversation.

Meals? We've had:

Pizza, Mexican food (taco/burrito bar), hot dogs, ribs, chicken, and vegetables (raw, roasted, stir-fried), salads, beans, corn, rice, potatoes (baked or mashed), soups. Tonight it was stir-fry, orange chicken, pot stickers, a spinach salad with avocado and oranges, and Julie brought brownies and ice cream.

Seriously though - what a better way to spend an evening - sharing a meal with loved ones, seeing grandchildren in their environment, and then coming home to ours - with no fuss whatsoever. Conversations are easier, there's no pulling kids out of places they shouldn't be, and because our house is so small, we're not crammed for space. A meals is always the best when shared - regardless of whose turf it's on!

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